Do you really trust your friends?
I get little agitated when I hear people say things like: ”I really only trust things written by my friends.” Usually it’s said in the context of online reviews, recommendations and the like about restaurants, movies, music, local businesses, products, etc.
But this sentiment is intermingling two related, but different things: trust and taste
Trust mostly relates to the authority of the source of the information. Is it from a reliable source that you can count on to be telling the truth? Or is it from a scammer who is pursuing some other agenda? Naturally, people are inclined to trust their friends more than strangers. But they may also trust recognized experts or noted personalities whose reputations are otherwise established and accepted.
But is it enough to simply trust the information? It depends on the situation, but oftentimes no, because a trusted source may or may not have similar taste to you. Taste speaks to whether or not someone likes similar things to you. Trusted information that points you in the wrong direction isn’t very useful.
For instance, since my good friends tend to have different musical taste than I do, their recommendations aren’t very useful - even though I ‘trust’ them completely. In fact, I’d rather hear from a complete stranger with similar music taste. It would even be fine if that ‘person’ were wholly fictitious - as long as they pointed me to some cool new tunes. Likewise, book reviews written by an elderly aunt who likes English village mystery stories aren’t very useful to me. Her favorite books are likely to be the opposite of mine.
In both these situations, I would gladly trade trust for taste. In fact, there are lots of cases where I don’t really care that much about trust. Generally, I favor taste in sectors where there are wide preference variances between people and/or where I can sample the goods directly or cheaply.
That said, there are other cases where I would trade taste for trust. Examples might include hiring a contractor for my kitchen remodel, finding a new doctor, or maybe finding a good tailor. These are cases where taste preferences don’t vary as much between people and/or where the cost of failure or error is relatively high.
So, the key points are:
- Trust and taste are distinctive things
- The right balance between them varies from sector to sector